First we must understand African American slaves could not legally marry in the United States of America. Slaves who were ritually married were labeled by White slave masters as "shacking". This meant since African American slaves weren't allowed to legally marry, it was legal for White slave owners to have sex with and impregnate African American slave women even though those women had husbands they jumped the broom with.
White slave masters didn't respect any ceremony or ritual of marriage among African American slaves.
*Shacking is a term used by White slave masters during African American slavery. Because slaves lived in shacks and couldn't legally marry they were labeled as shacking. Even though African American slaves held their own marriage ceremonies: Jumping The Broom, etc., they were still viewed as shacking.
In fact, most African American men were bought to breed. Their jobs was to impregnate as many African American women as possible to keep the plantation filled with generations of slave babies.
African Americans as a whole didn't get the right to legally marry until 1865, and even in some of those cases African American marriages weren't honored or respected.
As far as marriage among interracial (Black and White) couples it was first legalized throughout the United States of America in 1967 (Loving vs. Virginia) decision.
Black women like Oprah know a piece of legal paper given by a government that refused to give to her ancestors i.e. African American slaves doesn't make one married! They know a marriage license is easy to buy but hard to get out of. They know that under $100 piece of legal license can cost you half or all of your fortune in a divorce.
I tell high-paid Black women all the time, "If you're gonna get a marriage license from the State you better get a prenuptial agreement first because divorce is real and losing your assests is a painful thing!"
But even when we look at marriages in ancient times, most didn't involve the State relative to a license. Among The ancient Hebrews, the fathers arranged the marriages. Fathers received a dowry for marrying off his daughter, whereas he had to give a dowry for marrying off his son. The fathers agreed to the exchange. In the book of Genesis, Dinah was gained by gifts given to her father. Abraham gave jewels of silver, gold and raiment for his son to marry Rebekah, he also gave precious things to Rebekah's brother and mother.
"...Adam and Eve weren't
married in a church, temple,
or synagogue! They became
one flesh through sexual intercourse".
In ancient Greece, marriages were usually arranged by the parents. The couple participated in a ceremony or a ritual; however, the couple living together actually made them married.
Even Jesus knew two people leaving their mother and father and becoming one flesh through consummation are married (Matthew 19:5-6). Jesus talked about divorce and marriage whereas He stated if a woman commits fornication her husband can divorce her (Matthew 19:9)...wait, how can a married woman commit fornication? Because fornication is the act of having sex with multiple people!
Its simple, once you have sex with someone else you no longer belong to your spouse. You now belong to the person you had sex with. Why? Because sex consummates a marriage.
Many people are caught up in soul-ties because they don't know how to divorce their souls from people they've had sexual experiences with!
In a spiritual and metaphysical sense, within a committed relationship, sex makes that relationship a marriage. Oprah and women like her know they don't need a piece of legal paper from the State to quantify their relationship.
Oprah isn't the only high-class African American woman not buying into the whole legal marriage license, Iyanla Vanzant believes the same thing. She said she's never going to marry again. Click below link:
She doesn't mean she's never gonna love again, she means she's never going to legally marry again because she knows the pros and cons thereof as it relates to legal marriage in the United States of America.
She know legal marriage in the United States of America has become one of the greatest scams, and easiest way to lose one's hard earned wealth.
Those in legal marriages only stay because it's cheaper to keep her...meaning although the love is gone: They're not having sex, sleeping in different rooms, not coming home at times, seeing other people, they'd rather stay in a legal agreement than split things half and half. That's a miserable existence.
"...A dysfunctional marriage is
worser than a divorce!"
Simply put, the government should stay out of marriage. People should also be more responsible who they decide to enter relationships with. If you're going to get a marriage license from the State please understand in full detail what that entails relative to your money, children, and life.
Nevertheless, the State doesn't make you married. Your word of commitment and the leaving of your father and mother's house and becoming one flesh makes a couple married.
Dr. Jim Allen