As a man it took me over 30 years to really understand and respect my body. As a boy I lost my virginity at 12 years old to a young woman older than me...she was maybe 18 or 19 years old.
As long as I can remember no one ever told me how special my body was. No one ever told me how special sex was, in fact growing up as a teen in the early 1990's, sex was objectified through rap lyrics that called women b!tches and h*es. Sex in those days to a young confused fatherless black boy had no value.
Even though my mother raised me and my siblings in church, I can't ever remember a Sunday school teacher or a preacher telling me my body was special. Not even my mom had the foresight to tell me how special my body was and how sacred sex was. My mom's only advice was "bring a baby home and I'm whipping your a**!"
As years went on I began to see how special sex really is, I also marvelled at how long it took me to realize this. It was like a spiritual awakening or some sort of phenomenon. Even as a Minister (1996) I didn't have a full grasp on the importance of my body and sex.
As I researched sex relative to men of ancient and modern times I saw a pattern where men have never really taught boys to respect their bodies.
In ancient times it was lawfull for men to have multiple wives, it was lawfull, however, because something is lawfull doesn't make it spiritually or morally right.
In the early 1960's Black and White couples couldn't legally marry, yes that was the law, but it wasn't morally right and was changed!
It was in Freemasonry and other ancient texts that I learned whenever a man enters inside a woman she becomes his wife. The second Jacob went inside Leah she bacame his wife (Genesis 29:23). A man becomes one flesh with a woman during sex (Genesis 2:24).
During sex the BONDING CHEMICAL oxytocin is released in the brain affecting the entire body. Not only does sex have mental and physical ramifications but spiritual ones as well. Sex is the most intimate thing two people can ever share.
Jesus dealt with sex as a mental act before the physical manifestation, if adultery starts in the mind so does marriage.
When I became aware of the power of sex I started changing my wayward ways. Yes, even preachers' (not all) are taught through nonverbal communication, sex with multiple women is biblical. However, many have misinterpreted the Bible.
Yes our children will make mistakes and bad decisions. They will have sex with people they shouldn't have sex with, but when you become a man it becomes more than just physical. It becomes a ritual. It becomes moral. It becomes spiritual.
Many governments know sex is what physically and spiritually makes a couple one. Here in the United States of America, most States allow teens ages 15 - 16 to marry with and sometimes without parental consent. Why? Because the government knows if couples marry young they'll probably have a chance of growing together and staying together...of course that isn't always the reality.
The reality is if you have sex make sure it's with someone you want to speed the rest of your life with. Remember, as a MAN when you enter inside a woman you are spiritually and physically making her your wife ❤
If you don't want that responsibility then don't go inside her! Many will say "well, the law of the land makes one married!" My question is as African Americans, did your great great grandparents have a marriage license? The answer is probably no! Because slave masters didn't give their slaves marriage licenses, which is why our ancestors in America "JUMPED THE BROOM!"
The law stated if a couple Black or White had a marriage license than they were free. This is why most of our great great grandparents didn't have a State marriage license. Yet in God's eyes they were married! Their word and sexual intercourse made them married!
As men we must learn to respect our bodies! You don't have to screw every woman that comes on to you! Brother learn how to say NO! Don't lose your soul through your pee-hole. Respect your mind, body and soul for it's all connected.
It's time to teach our boys to respect their bodies! It's time to teach men the same! Sleeping with multiple women isn't macho, it's actually stupid and dangerous. The more people you sleep with is the more you give away yourself. Pretty soon you'll have nothing left for you. Your soul will be empty. You'll be empty and broken 💔 stay whole by protecting your soul and who you share it with!
Pastor Jim Allen